Surgery is postponed...

Elizabeth's admission and testing last week went well. She was in the OR longer than
expected and had a bit of trauma to her colon due to the procedure of
catheter placement being more difficult than usual. this caused extra bleeding and
pain, but she is fine. once again, she showed us all that
is more than amazing in her strength to get through painful,
horrible things. She did it though and now we can put the
awful testing away until the next time.
We were happy to be able to get an unexpected discharge so that
we could be home for the weekend. We headed back to Los Angeles
yesterday in preparation for her scheduled colon surgery today....
but tonight we are home. She is too sick with a sinus infection (and cough)
and the surgical team felt it too unsafe to put her through the surgery today.
It is hard to be mentally and emotionally prepared for such a big surgery and then
have a change in plans, but there's no way she should have gone to the OR today.
She's on a heavy course of antibiotics and, because she can't seem to stay well for
very long, she will have surgery as soon as this course of antibiotics is finished in order
to head into surgery her best and not risk being sick post-op.
Elizabeth handled the frustration of postponing it better than I did. She did voice to all
that she will now not have surgery before her birthday; she's spent birthdays and holidays
in the hospital and if she has a say -which she does- she will not be behind the glass on
July 16th. Surgery is scheduled for the 17th.
The bone marrow biopsy will be done at that time as well.
We just have to trust that His timing is best and be patient.
I'll update more soon.

a video made for lizzie. turn off the blog music before hitting play.

Update

I have not written in months..... too much to say with too little motivation to say it.
If you have checked in, in the hopes of praying for my Elizabeth - thank you.
Elizabeth has been in and out of the hospital since I last wrote. She now eats noting by mouth and is on tube feeds 22 hours a day.
Tuesday she will be admitted for a few weeks for another bone marrow biopsy, testing and then major colon surgery on July 2nd.
And still, she smiles.

Update

Last night I sat shaking uncontrollably. The mind-body connection is amazing and I guess my adrenaline was rushing as I sat thinking of the upcoming week and my body responded.
On Monday, our Liz will be admitted to Children's Hospital Los Angeles for a while. We were told days, but we've learned to pack for weeks. On Tuesday she will head to the OR for a procedure to place a PICC line again. Originally, we planned on placing the PICC so that I had IV access at home to provide IV hydration to her. This week plans changed, and the new plan is to have Liz go on gut rest for a while, and receive TPN (IV nutrition) for awhile.
While we are at CHLA, the enteral nutrition team will also consult and try and figure out why her zinc keeps dropping so low.
The geneticist will have labs drawn for the two syndromes he asked to test her for almost three weeks ago, but I wanted him to justify his reasoning. After hearing Hem/Onc's impression of her last bone marrow slides and after the geneticists argument provided in chart notes and conversation to Liz's pediatrician, we have decided to agree to the labs. I have hesitated sharing the names of the diseases with others, as they are both terminal and that is a dramatic thought, but prayer is powerful and so I share now and ask for prayer that she will test negative for both Pearson's Syndrome and MNGIE (both mitochondrial diseases). I do not think she has either.
Hopefully Surgery will consult as well during our stay; it has been decided that Liz needs the cecostomy (surgery to provide colon-access from the outside so that we can do daily flushes) and given her complicated case and so much scarring from all of her previous surgeries, it will be important to have surgeons who are comfortable working on her.
Surgery will not take place during this admit. She must first have the colon manomerty studies repeated and a surgical team in place.We plan to come home and return in about a month for the Cecostomy.

Please pray for Liz's tolerance and patience. Being in the hospital is rough. Last year she needed the PICC line moved to her other arm a month after placing the first, so she is hesitant and dreading having the line in. Gut rest will be difficult as well, as she won't be able to eat by mouth for weeks-month.
We all feel the effects of a hospitalization as Liz and I are away from home. Not being at our local hospital is especially hard because I won't be able to see Jackson or Kate while we are in LA. Walter has been on vacation this week and getting away from work will be difficult since he has just had this time off.
We are praying we are making the right choices for our girl-

Thank you for continuing to pray and encourage us.



Below is an entry I wrote two weeks ago but didn't post. I'll attach to this one for those who have asked the same questions.....

It has been a few weeks since I last posted. I decided to write tonight to address some questions I have been asked or heard others say they have been asked.

What is wrong with Elizabeth-
 Hmm, good question and I wish I knew the answer. If you are looking for an overall diagnosis as an answer, there isn't one yet. It is a complicated explanation....
Elizabeth and her identical twin sister Kaitlin both had surgery for severe reflux when they were four months old. Because of lung disease due to constant aspiration, they were both on oxygen for about nine months during their first year of life. After that initial surgery, Katilin (with the exception of a bit of kidney reflux that effected her in her first years) has been healthy. Liz has not been as fortunate and she has required seven surgeries, as her Fundoplication has failed over and over, and her repaired hernias have also required additional repair. She has had a Pyloroplasty as well. In addition to the surgeries, she has had more procedures and hospitalizations than I can count. All of this, as hard as it was, wasn't life-consuming. Liz would have a procedure or surgery and bounce right back. She was considered a kid with a chronic issue (GI) but we never considered her a chronically ill child. Ever.
That changed in January of 2010. After a small, simple surgery I noticed that in the weeks following she wasn't herself. She was overly tired, her hair was falling out more than usual and she was bruising. I thought she could be anemic and requested blood work. Her labs showed she had low white cell, red cell and platelet counts and her pediatrician said we'd repeat them and watch it. Over the next six weeks, additional labs all continued to show low counts and Liz had started having low-grade fevers most often at night. She was referred to Hematology/Oncology and had her first bone marrow aspiration and biopsy which revealed abnormal marrow and cell lines, but no cancer.
Around the same time, Liz started having trouble fighting off infection. She has had recurrent sinus infections and CDifficile (her last bout of CDiff lasted nine months). Infectious Disease and Immunology came on board and early on there was talk that if it wasn't cancer, perhaps she'd been exposed to a virus, her body was hit hard by it and it may take time for her to recover. That isn't the case and it became obvious that something more was happening.
Hem/Onc said maybe something was "brewing" and she continued to have labs drawn every 2-4 weeks to watch her counts.
In the meantime, she was getting sick often and we were spending more and more time in the hospital.
In the last two years her GI issues have overwhelmingly taken over as well. She was diagnosed with severe FTT (Failure To Thrive) and she had a PICC placed to deliver TPN (IV nutrition) for four months. She now has a GTube (feeding tube in her stomach) to provide supplemental feeding via formula feeds. Hydration is a huge issue now as well and she often requires IV fluids.
Her motility issues have lead to chronic impaction (stool) and she has suffered horribly in the last year. In October, she had testing done that shows that her colon isn't contracting on its own which is why she is getting impacted.
She has had a total of 5 bone marrow aspirations and biopsies in the past three years and all show that her marrow is hypocellular.

I wish there was a diagnosis, wrapped in a bow and delivered to us, so that we could have an overall plan. We may or may not ever get that. In Liz's case, it is almost a chicken or egg first kind of question.... what came first, the GI issues, or something bigger causing the GI issues? The marrow and blood being the primary  cause, or nutrition or something else causing the marrow to be abnormal and not recover?
I have sat at tables with the heads of multiple departments as they talked about Liz's case and they too play the "which came first" game.

What is the next step in Liz's care or treatment plan?
Sigh. This too is a tough question as currently, we have some tough decisions to make.
As for the bone marrow and blood issues- We have held off on testing her marrow for about 8 months. Our current strategy is to give her nutritional status time to get better (with GTube feeds and better Prealbumin counts) and we will test her again in May or June. IF poor nutrition was the cause of marrow failing to produce (I refuse to use the term marrow failure as docs have used) then now that her status is improving, her marrow will show recovery. That is our hope. If it doesn't show recovery and shows the abnormal cells that it has, then we have a problem.
Liz does sinus rinses and takes an inhaled antibiotic (nasal inhalation) multiple times a day to try and hold off sinus infections. For her, antibiotics required to treat infection lead to CDifficile, which is devastating on her system.
Some have asked why I am not taking her to other facilities/doctors....
The truth is that I am! First of all, our local children's hospital is not some small, hick-town facility. It is a major, recognized hospital with some amazing physicians and programs. Having said that, we have taken her to UCLA, CHLA, Rady's. Cedars Sinai and we have consulted with out of state hospitals as well. Currently, three of her specialists are at CHLA.
Kaitlin and Liz are identical twins, why is Kate not sick if one of the possible diagnoses is a genetic disease?
This too is a complicated answer. In short, if Liz does have a genetic disease, Kate could be spared even though they are identical twins. Or, Kate could be a carrier and it will take time or an assault on her body (illness, surgery, pregnancy) to show itself. It is much too complicated to explain in written form, but we have asked the question and understand the answer.
Why are we in medical debt when there are government programs and max-spending even with insurance.....
Currently, Liz does not have a diagnosis that is covered by Medical or CCS. SUPER frustrating that she doesn't qualify for these health coverage programs.
We have private insurance but we pay towards every out of network physician that is billed (this includes radiologists, pathologists and anesthesiologists that are on service at the time Liz requires care; we don't get to choose these physicians. Co-pays for each office visit are $45.00 and her monthly prescriptions cost about $300. Those two costs alone add up.

Does Liz see someone to talk to about her feelings?
Yes. Liz has had a therapist for three years. Some months she goes once a week and others not at all. I recognized early on that she needed someone to talk things out with if she would like. It was a proactive choice on my part that I'm so happy I made, especially now that things have gotten so bad.

You Are My Race

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OTg1n95--KE

{There is a favorite children's book of mine called You Are My I Love You (many of you have received the book from me as a baby shower gift) and currently lines from the book are making their way around Pinterest and facebook. Seriously, the beautiful words in the story get me every time I read it to one of the kids.
Two of the lines in the book have touched me in a new way over the last few years as they make me think of the journey Liz is on....I am your finish line, you are my race.
I am your way home, you are my new path.
I have said more times than I can remember and I have heard other mamas echo the same, that this feels like a marathon we are running with our sick children. It is exhausting and difficult and I wish we knew where the finish line was. I'm starting to understand that there may be no finish line for Liz medically. She is always going to have to deal with her health and this marathon is going to be a lifetime race.
What I can do as her mom is be her finish line, so to speak. I can cheer her on. I can advocate for her and rally for her so that there are mile markers she can see and accomplish and overcome along the way. When she gets too tired, I can pick her up and carry her until she is ready to run again. I can open my arms and wave her in and towards her finish line- whatever that may be.
We never would have chosen this path, but I will help her find her way. }

The last week has been difficult for Liz. Since my last update, she did end up starting on an oral antibiotic as her Staph just wasn't healing and her sinus infection had gotten pretty bad. We are now just praying that she stays clear of CDifficile infection as a result.
In the past week she has had two clean-outs due to impaction. It is just this never-ending cycle of impaction, dehydration, soiling, not eating, and back around again.
Her stoma (GTube site)  still isn't looking good or healing the way we'd hoped. She had an upper GI last Friday that showed the tube is placed well in her stomach which is good news. Her surgeon is thinking we may have to change to a new kind of tube, but I would hate to do that as right now she has a low-profile tube which means she has a little "button" sticking out of her belly and I hook her to the tube during her feeds. The new kind of tube would be a tube hanging out of her all of the time. Not ideal. The GI doctor and the amazing GI nurse clinician at the hospital are working to see how we can get her into see the inpatient wound care nursing team, as they know tricks and have supplies that even most docs don't.
She has declined in terms of her colon over the last couple weeks. We have started a new plan of weekly clean-outs and enemas in addition to her meds, but two of her doctors have asked me to seriously consider surgery to do a Cecostomy and Appendicostomy. I cannot even go there right now.
Today I took her to see her pediatrician because she has been short of breath over the last few days....alright, more like I noticed it about 5 days ago. She has been saying that she feels dizzy at times, but that is not a new thing and is usually caused by dehydration. The shortness of breath is new though and it has gotten worse, so I took her in..... she has partially collapsed lungs. This has been caused by the stomach pain she has been having and being so full of stool has caused her not to breathe deeply enough to really get air through. She is in no distress and she has no wheezing or chest pain other than when she blows out or takes a deep breath. She is using the spirometer every hour to move those lungs and we  are doing breathing treatments every four hours to try and prevent pneumonia (she has a bit of a drip and congestion now and she has had pnemonia before and is susceptible). She'll be re-evaluated on Thursday. I am sure it will be better by then.
There has been discussion about her next bone marrow aspiration. GI said she should be ready in the Spring to have it done, but her Pediatrician wants to wait until the summer. We want to make sure that if her improved nutritional status is going to help her marrow we give it enough time to work and prove itself rather than testing too early and thinking it hasn't helped in marrow recovery.
Next week she will see a Genetics and Mitochondrial specialist for the first time at the request of a few of her doctors. Honestly, I am too covered in poop (figuratively, but literally too) to give much thought to that appointment or the reasons we are being sent there. I will deal with it on that day.
School.... is up in the air. I need to decide what to do about it. She missed the week before the two week Christmas break and she isn't going back this week. We just need to decide what will be best. For now, she is my shadow again.

Thank you to those who continue to pray for her and support us on this race. I hope you know how much we appreciate you.

Dear Elizabeth Claire....

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Elizabeth Claire,
I know you are sick of being sick. I know I can't feel the exact pain and sickness you feel, but as your mommy, trust me baby, I feel your suffering in ways only you will understand once you have a child of your own.
Every pain, every needle, every excruciating procedure, every minute of lost modesty or embarrassment, every time you feel scared or angry or lost- I feel it as an ache only a mother's heart knows.
And I also understand your frustration, discouragement and even your thoughts of envy. I have felt those same things on your behalf and in my own mind over the last years.
So my Lulu, this letter is for you to remind you of the things we have gained as a result of pain and suffering; your pain alone, and the pain I have had as your mommy as I have watched you take on your trails.....

If you were healthy, you may take the ways your body is strong for granted.
If you and I didn't spend so much alone time together, we wouldn't talk as much as we do.
If we weren't stuck in the hospital room as much as we are, we wouldn't have as many of our own silly jokes or secrets.
If we never had to wait (and wait and wait) for doctors or recovery, we wouldn't be practicing so much patience.
If you weren't sick, you wouldn't have helped put something back together without even knowing it was broken ( a story I will share with you when you are older).
If you weren't sick, I wouldn't be as strong as I am or as good of a mommy as I am to you and your brother and sister. You have given me that gift.
If you didn't have to fight through pain the way you do, you would not be nearly as compassionate towards others as you are.
If you weren't suffering, many of us may not be reminded of humility, endurance, grace and patience as often as we are because of what we see in you.
If you weren't sometimes too tired or sick to do things, you may take for granted the days you are strong and doing fun things.
If you weren't sick, there would be so many less prayers and less people talking to God.
If you weren't a little hero, we wouldn't have been as touched by the lives of your hero friends, and goodness, can you imagine life without having those friends?
If you didn't have to practice mind-over-matter or have to be brave so often you may not be as strong as you are now.
If I didn't watch you endure so much for so long, I wouldn't appreciate much of what I do, in the ways I do- soaking in the happiness you, Kate and Jack bring. Breathing in the yummy way you smell after a shower, just as I did when you were a newborn. Closing my eyes to take in all of your giggles and the sound of your voices singing. Committing the happiest days to memory knowing they will get us through the next trial and bring us smiles again.
If you didn't have to suffer my sweet girl, we may not recognize that life is hard, but it is also so wonderful in even small ways.

These are a lot of "ifs", I know. There are many other ifs or whys that we could list that have nothing to do with your suffering. Everyone has a list and is fine to question things and even be sad about some of them.
I want you to remember that even though life can feel so unfair and even as if God has forgotten to protect you or answer you at times, many of our "if's" have awesome answers and there is always something to be grateful for.
I love you Elizabeth Claire. If only you could grasp how much and how proud I am to be your mom.

Finally, an Update

It has been a long time since my last post. Though I have much to say, I will keep this blog entry to the point and factual as it is prayer for health that I would like most right now.
I last wrote when Liz was in-patient at CHLA for the colon manometry studies. We were a bit surprised when we learned that the tests revealed that her colon is not contracting much at all without the use of medication and enemas. We knew she had some issue going on, as her chronic impaction and other symptoms indicated, but her physician and Walter and I were surprised by the severity of her dysmotility. Unfortunately, the probes placed in the OR before the start of the day-long testing weren't able to be threaded to the right side of her colon or her cecum; frustrating at the time, but very disappointing now that we know how severe her dysmotility is. We need to know what her cecum and ascending colon is doing. The manometry studies will need to be repeated, perhaps in Cincinnati at the amazong colon/rectal/bowel center there.
After the results Liz was put on a new regimen of meds and enemas, but they are not working in the way we'd all hoped. Unfortunately there are no other medications available to try and at this point we can only adjust meds and enema schedules and try to make sense of her poor colon. Surgery is the only other option. We meet with her motility specialist in Los Angeles in two weeks to talk about whether or not it is time to head to Cincinnati to see the specialists there.
Due to the new findings, her Immunologist has also referred her to the genetics and mitochondrial specialist at CHLA for more studies.
She has had ongoing issues with her stoma (the site/opening where her g-tube is placed) and after much pain, treatment by her GI and home nursing, she finally has started seeing a wound care specialist. Two weeks ago her stoma cultured positive for a Staph infection. Of course this sent everyone into a bit of a frenzy as the topical cream antibiotic she'd already been using wasn't clearing the infection and using an oral antibiotic is not an easy recommendation for Liz due to the recurrent CDifficile. Her infectious disease doctor got involved and after many calls between us all, we elected to give an additional topical treatment a try. Last week, her stoma was swabbed again and is culturing less Staph than a few weeks ago, so we are hopeful the medicated creams are working enough on their own. Thursday she will have the stoma cultured for a third time and we are praying the Staph is continuing to decrease.

Liz has had some great days and has even had two weeks of attending school for the whole week! Admittedly, she is exhausted though and currently we are discussing with her doctors the option of pulling her from school for a couple of months during this flu season and in an effort to get better control of her colon (it is difficult to time enemas and hydration around a seven hour school day).
You may remember that we elected to stop the immunoglobulin infussions (IVIG) in May and watch her body to see what it would do on its own, without the help of donor blood to boost her immune system. We knew that the winter and flu season would be telling in how her body would do without that support. I've been praying that was the right choice.

Today I took her to the pediatrician because her cold-like symptoms are much worse and she has chest discomfort and a fever. Liz and I diagnosed her before we even saw the doctor, as we both know exactly what her sinus infections present like. She indeed does have a sinus infection and her chest pain and tight airways are due to possible bronchitis. Again, an oral antibiotic is not an easy go-to option for Elizabeth because of CDifficle. So, we are increasing her inhaled Azithromycin dosage and Dr L. is contacting Infectious Disease and GI before we begin an oral antibiotic. She is pretty uncomfortable tonight.
Today Dr. L and I talked again about pulling Liz from school and we have decided that we will have her labs drawn on January 4th to evaluate her white count and neutrophil count and then based on those labs decide when/if she can return to school. Infection requiring antibiotics is just such a scary thought for us because of the darn CDiff issue.
Speaking of CDiff, we are nearing a year of her being CDiff free! This is huge and such a praise as that last 9 month-long infection was such a blow to her body. Liz smiled today and told Dr. L and me that she needs a sign that reads "One year CDiff free and I didn't need my sister's poop!" (remember, a fecal transplant was on the table and in the works, with Kate being the donor) : )

Of course the last 2+ months since I've written have brought much more to blog, but tonight these are the facts.... these are the issues our girl needs prayers for.

If you are still thinking of her and praying, thank you.

Short update- Elizabeth is scheduled to go to the OR procedure room at 6:15ish this morning. After a cleanout at home Sunday- Monday, the team thought she needed an additional aggressive cleanout begining last night. She's had Golightly running all night and multiple enemas but hasn't had much result. I'm praying they don't reschedule her procedure due to this. Anesthesia should be straight forward as usual. Liz will be very uncomfortable and in pain throught the day as she wakes with the tubes in and endures the cramping during the 12 hour tests. Please pray for her. Thank you.

Please Pray

For my Elizabeth Claire-
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7UpfatdyFtY&feature=related
(click and it will play in a separate window. you will be able to read blog during play)

My girl needs prayers this week. I covet prayer. I ask you mom to mom, friend to friend, please
flood His ears with your prayers. Elizabeth has gone through more than any person should ever have to endure. For years she has tolerated pain and suffering; for years she has kept on even though she has declined in may ways rather than healing. It feels as though she has no physical reward for all of her heroic ways she has endured in the hope that she would get well. How can one go on and continue to go through pain in the hopes that they will be made well?
I struggle with that thought every time I sign each consent form, every time I hand her over to the OR team and each time I allow her to be put through pain. It is a guilt no mother should have to feel and a trust no child should ever know.
Tomorrow Liz will begin another clean out at home in preparation for her hospital admission. Last weeks clean out was terrible with pain and retching. Also tomorrow, she will be seen by GI here in Long Beach because her gtube site has gotten even worse. She is now bleeding enough that she has blood coming out of the actual tube. I am a bit relieved that in the hospital this week we'll be able to have constant care and I am going to ask for the wound team to be in on helping her with the stoma.
On Tuesday she will be admitted to CHLA very early in the morning for more preparation and for IV fluids as she cannot take in anything other than clear liquids for the next few days. Wednesday she will go to the OR procedure room and have probes and catheters placed rectally and down through her nose/mouth. She'll be sedated during placement, but will wake with the tubes in and they will remain for a full day. On Thursday, she will have additional probes placed.This manometry testing is not fun. It will be painful and extremely uncomfortable as they make her colon contract over and over throughout the day for the study. Her GI team has held off on this testing for a year because it is awful and they wanted to spare her if at all possible.
Please pray for Elizabeth's tolerance. She will be in a hospital that is unfamiliar and she will be without the nurses we have come to trust and who care deeply for Liz personally. Also, other than the motility specialist who she has only met three times (and who lacks a great bedside manner), Liz will be without her team of doctors as CHLA is not our home hospital, and while we have met with specialists there before, she will not have her core team there.
Pray for Liz to not have unbearable pain and for nausea to be well managed. Pray that the doctors get the information they need and that the end result of this week of pain will be "worth" it.
Pray that her counts are stable- red and white cells, and platelets.
Pray for Jackson and Kate, too. I will not be able to see them because CHLA is not close to home. They both are already upset that I am leaving. Kate is sick with a horrible cold and I am praying that she is better by Tuesday and that Jackson stays healthy. It is awful to feel torn and want to be with my children when I cannot. Walter will be off of work for five days to help and will go back and forth from the hospital.


Thank you for praying. Ask others to pray. Know that I am grateful.

{Lord, I do not doubt you, but please, please help my Elizabeth and finally bring some healing. Please see how you have used her and touched lives through her, and please bring an end to her suffering}


The Lord has promised good to me
His word my hope secures.
He will my shield and portion be
as long as life endures.

A Bushel and a Peck....

 I grew up going to Oak Glen to enjoy a Fall day of apple picking. How fun to continue the tradition with my own family. On Saturday, my birthday, we headed up to the apples. Liz was supposed to begin a bowel clean out, but we held off a day because I had my mind set on a family day in the beautiful weather and nothing was going to stop us. We had the best day!

First stop was to pick pumpkins....

I love them a bushel and a peck.



 

Fitting because it IS true that Jackson has a big pumpkin head : )

Tractor ride up the hill.....

....and a beautiful view. Thank you God for eyes to see.

I would not let them start picking apples unless I was able to take their picture.

Going up.

Jackson was searching for yellow apples on the Red Delicious tree

I could not have been more happy on my birthday.

One of my most favorites ever of Kate.

Isn't she beautiful?

The tree(s) behind the girls was a set of twins. It was one tree that split in two.
Thanks for duplicating, silly girls!

Yay, a corn maze! Which way to go?

We decided to split up

I see you, mu Lulu

Choosing apples....

....for pressing. Let's make some cider, y'all!

We brought in our muscle girl when it got super tough



It is filling up.

They did it! Teamwork and some sibling arguing makes for great cider.

Kate caught this photo of Jack. After a long day, he was ready for home.

Until next year, Oak Glen.
I will remember this year, this image, especially.

Update

It has been a month since my last post and some have messaged me to ask how things are. It would take many words to fill in on everything that has happened, so I'll post pictures and recap.
We have been busy! Kate's volleyball and the kids' school schedule and homework would keep any family busy. Adding in Liz's appointments and many sleepless nights has made me exhausted and I just haven't had the time or motivation to blog.

Jackson and Kate are doing very well! Jack is making new friends at school and soaking in learning. He was pretty bored in the first weeks of school, but now that his class has been divided into reading groups based on the student's reading level, he is happy to be challenged more.
Kate is happy and my only worry for her is that she is too tired from having a lot on her plate. It is good for her to be busy though and for her to have her own "thing" to keep her distracted and motivated. Volleyball takes up two hours a night after school and middle school homework is intense, so she is falling into bed each night. She loves the sport and has committed to playing Club ball again, so we are hanging on for the ride of another season.

Elizabeth has been struggling. Her Gtube site (called a stoma) has not healed as well as it should. She's been dealing with pain and bleeding along with granulomas. Rather than having to go into the doctor's office each week, I now have been given the supplies to treat her granulomas at home. She's started back on Prilosec to help with the inflammation that is going on around the lining of her stomach and the balloon of the Gtube.
She had a reaction to the internal  stitches used and she has had horrible muscle pain. Normally, a tube is placed more mid-line... picture someone with a six-pack. There is a divot down the center of their torso where there is no muscle. This is where tubes are placed. Because of all of Liz's surgeries, her surgeon had to place her tube to the side, which meant he had to cut through muscle. Painful now, but slowly healing.

Last week she started retching more often, having pain, and she had two days of dizziness and feeling faint. A series of xrays of Wednesday confirmed that she was impacted with stool again, and that was contributing to her symptoms (impaction contributes to dehydration). She went through a clean out at home Sunday and Monday, which has been horrible. Usually she doesn't have as difficult a time as she's had this week and it has been awful to watch and help her through. Our goal is to keep her from having to be hospitalized this week. On top of the impaction and clean out, she is on day 10 of a nasty cold/viral thing and has felt pretty sick with cough, congestion and fatigue. We are praying it does not turn into a sinus infection which would be the worst thing that could happen for her right now.
Next Monday, she will begin another clean out at home and then on Tuesday, we'll head to CHLA for her to be admitted for the week for manometry studies.
She could definitely use prayer.

This is a move Jackson calls the "X-ray" : )

Kate had a visit to the doctor for a physical. She grew nine and three-quarter inches in
just two years! She is strong, healthy and going to be TALL!

Tired eyes but big smiles for us both.

Liz's surgeon. When you pray for her during her surgeries, this is the man you
are holding in prayer as he holds her life in his hands.

Liz has missed the last eight days of school : ( Here she is on a healthy day giving herself
meds through her tube while she does homework.

This touched Liz and she shared it with me.
How amazing is she?

This

"I don't know how to do this." I must have said that to myself a dozen times today.
I just don't know how to manage everything. I am trying so hard to make things normal in this home, in our routine, and in our family, but this is not normal.
I am in tears tonight as I feel a huge weight in terms of Elizabeth. We are trying to keep her in school, but it isn't working very well. I feel a tug to pull her and do home and hospital teaching like we did last year, but I know how badly she wants to be in school. She thrives on the social aspect of school and she truly likes being in the class room. The fact that she has a twin sister going off to school each day adds a whole level of complexity.
Still, it is hard for Liz to keep up with everything when she misses a day. She was put in all accelerated classes, except for math, and so she has even more work than she would otherwise. She is starting to feel the stress of it all and that is not a good thing. Between the doctor's appointments, hospital stays and days she is home not feeling well it adds up to being just too much. I don't know how to do this.
My gut tells me to pull her and help her recover and get strong, but then I would be taking away the wonderful, positive effect school has on her mentally; and honestly, her mental health is as important to me as her physical health.
Such a difficult decision. I was hoping she would have more time until we would have to make the decision to pull her or not. Once flu season hits, it will be telling for Liz. Either her body will be able to fight all the infections and viruses, or it won't. Now though, she isn't recovering as well from the surgery for the GTube as we'd hoped, and she isn't doing well in other ways.

Her stoma (the opening where her Gtube button is) isn't healing as quickly as it should be and now she has developed pussing, bleeding and granulation. Gross.
Last night and today she had an elevated temp and we are hoping it isn't related to the stoma which would show signs of infection.
She had a bloody nose four times Saturday, and each one lasted at least 20 minutes. This makes us think her platelets are lower than her usual low counts. We are off to the doctor again tomorrow.
Blah!

Today I have felt like I am not the one who should be caring for Liz; like I am not the right person to help her get well. I know that this is just my fatigue and frustration talking, but it has been such a feeling of weakness.
In perfect timing, I got a boost tonight. Elizabeth showed me part of an essay she wrote for an assignment. It touched me in a way only my child's pure and loving heart could and I took her written words as an answer to prayer.
"My mom is the person I admire the most because she is patient, caring, loving and hardworking. Every single day my mom never stops."
I don't know how to do all of  "this", but I do know that I have to keep going because little eyes are watching, and I have a lot to live up to.

If Only

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I LOVE this song. Along with liking the song so much, the message goes along with much of what I have been feeling lately.
I will admit that I have been struggling with "what" I am; what my role is in this life. Before I go on, I will remind you that I consider it a privelege to be able to take care of my three children. I also consider the messy, difficult, taxing role of caring for Elizabeth a huge privilege!
Having said that, candidly I will also share that at times I feel "if only." If only I could be contributing more to the family or if only I could work, then we would be able to take vacations, buy luxury items, not stress so much about medical bills.
If only Liz wasn't sick. If only my husband didn't work so very hard and yet we are in a constant state of drowning in medical debt. If only life had gone according to my plans. If only I knew that things would turn out alright in the ways we want. So many if only's.
We all have them, don't we?

Last night, as Walter and I had some quiet time to talk (if you have a mental picture of us cuddled and talking in whispers or sharing a glass of wine and having deep conversation, throw that out. I was watering when he drove up from being at work and we stole a few minutes alone to talk as I threatened to hose-down any child that got in the way of our conversation : )  ), I told him
"This is what I am supposed to be doing. I am supposed to be taking care of Jackson and Kate. And, I am meant to take care of Elizabeth during this time - nurse her back to health, get her through this horrible time; help her get through school, help her to get strong- so that she can be the best person she can be when she is older. So that she can be the person she is meant to be."

Life can rock us to the core- all of us. It can try and strip away security, comfort, health, plans.....
but if we try hard, if I try hard, and stop focusing on the "if only's", it won't take away who I am meant to be. Which for now may be a struggling, tired mom. That is alright, because I am rich in so many other ways and I know that I am doing exactly what I should be right now; exactly what I am meant to be.


{Some people are so poor all they have is money.
Diamonds, some people waste their life counting their thousands.
They can't afford what we've got, not even the kings.
I found the world in you.
Your arms around me are worth more than a kingdom.
The trust that we feel, the kings never felt that. They can't afford this; this is priceless.
They can't afford what we've got, not even the kings.}

Don't Say First Day

Elizabeth was discharged from the hospital late Monday afternoon. Yay! We are always so happy to come home to our loves and to be away from the hospital. She'll follow up with all of her specialists in the next two weeks and she'll get blood counts again soon to make sure her counts have come up some.
Liz is doing pretty well. She is having some bleeding from her stoma, so we will go to the doctor tomorrow to get it looked at. Last night she woke up in pain, but she never lets her pain get in the way of what she wants to do........
which today means attempting her first day of middle school! She is half crazy, half stubbornly resilient, and she insisted on going to school just like everyone else. I knew I needed to let her attempt the day because we have no idea what this year will bring. If she is not able to fight infections or if she is too sick, she'll be forced to stay home again this year like she did all of last year.
I have been crying for the last two hours since I dropped off the kids at school because I am so worried about Liz. We have been together, literally, all of the time for over a year. My gut says she is not ready for school today as she is still recovering, her counts aren't great, and her stamina isn't there, but for her emotional and mental well being we had to let her try.
Jackson and Kaitlin were happy to walk into school this morning. How in the world can I have children of my own who are old enough for middle school?! It just seems impossible. I pray the girls have a great experience and make lifelong friends in these middle school years, just as I did.
Jackson started Kindergarten! How sad that for the first time in seven years, I will have an empty home during the day now that all three are in school.

Here's to a wonderful, happy year of learning and firsts. As Travis said when he was little, and we continue to say now, "Don't say first day!"

First day of Kindergarten and first day of 6th grade.
Jackson- 6  Liz and Kate-11

Look how they've grown. This was last year.

My beautiful, hard working, pleasing, kind Kate.

Jackson's teacher is amazing (!!!) and happens to be our neighbor,
He is hilarious and told us "I don't think having my neighbor for my teacher is such a good idea".
He is totally prepared for Kinder and is going to have a great year!

My shadow for the last year is attempting to leave me and have the normalcy of
school that she deserves. She is an example to us all of never making excuses, practicing mind-over-matter,
 and believing that strength comes from within.

The girls have always been in class together. This year they will separate for the first time.

Jackson and Taylor are at  the same school and in the same class!
I just kept telling him "Do not hit your cousin at school!!!"